i will come out and say it
i am still not a fan of mother's day
there, i've said it
why am i not a fan of mother's day? because i can't bear children
for some odd reason, this is hard for a lot of people to comprehend
although i can't complain too much, because i do have 1 child, i am a physical mother
but there is still a part of this mother that has been left behind.
just after we were blessed with out little, i had my first mother's day. someone had the NERVE to tell me that i wasn't really a mother, because i didn't give birth to him. and i still have a great grandmother who always asks me "are you going to go see his real mom?"
EXCUSE ME?!
i am every bit of a mother as the next person. even if i didn't have kids, i would still be a mother. why?
because i have the POTENTIAL to be a mother.
that's right. whether i have kids in this life or the next, i was placed here on this earth to be a mother. i have the maternal instincts, it is my divine status. i AM a mother. I can be celebrated too.
it's hard though, trying to explain to others about this though. sometimes they still don't get it.
there was one thing that helped me through mother's day. the celebration of MY mother. i would spend the day servicing my mom. the reason for this, was that you can't feel bad when in the service of your fellow beings.
anyway, i feel like i have rambled enough
to all my fellow infertile women out there. HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY.
because you deserve it just as much if not MORE than anyone else out there.
loves.
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I just stumbled across your blog on accident. I am glad I did. Your Mother's Day post has touched my heart and so perfectly expresses how I feel! Before my necessary hyst at age 44, I had all the fertility of a rock. My best friend shared her pregnancies and births with me, and her children, when little, called me "Other Mama". Several years ago, I was blessed to marry a wonderful man who came equipped with 3 half-grown boys. I dove head-first into parenting, doing my best to be a mom, without stepping on their mother's toes. Not an easy dance, I can tell you. Several people have told me I am a mother. It has also been pointed out to me, by those I trusted to not say such things, that I am NOT their mother. But I know I have a Mother's heart, and I know I love those three boys as if I had given birth. I am grateful to have stumbled across your blog, I am grateful for your honesty. Thank you and God bless you!
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